Category: Self-Love

Writings on Self-Love

Posted on

The Love of Resilience

Resilience is a gift of self-knowledge given to us by our self-love. As we accept this gift from our self, we naturally accept the experiences we face in life as experiences which wishes to grow us, to mature us. Therefore, resilience is the power of loving knowledge which comes from our own nurturance, our own self-caring, our own encouragement. Life will always be no more or no less than what it is, or what it is presenting to us at any given moment. Like in any classroom, such as life is our classroom, there is always something to learn, something which comes to remold us, to make us a better individual for our future. Resilience finds its purpose in that. Resilience is the inspiration which is always there to lift us up and dust us off if needed. Resilience tends to any wounds and even works to heal them. Resilience is the part of you, living inside of you, that can’t help but love you. So, why not let resilience love you? Why not let resilience care for you as no one else can? Resilience is your bestest of friends. Hello resilience, I am so glad you’re here. Be resilient, start today in honor and love of yourself.

“Honoring The Self”

Posted on

Living from Within Your Own Space

Silence is Golden

It is easy to say we are living our lives in wobbly times. It is as if life has lost its balance and spin, and all things are being shaken loose, and falling apart. Yes, that may be the case, but it need not be so disturbing. That is, it need not be so disturbing if your space is in order, and that is the personal space from which you conduct your life peacefully. This secure and safe peaceful space is your inner space. It is the space where all that is you stems from. It is the space, when stable, where no one can affect you unless you allow it. It is a mighty space built on integrity and personal trust. It is a space of absolute truth; we cannot build safety and security on lies. You must decide for yourself how this space of yours is fashioned, that will determine the value of its true safety and security. In this place there is no truth in lies, and in truth herein the only person you must answer to first is no one but yourself. So, take the time to check out this your inner space and to put it in order. Do so, so you can maintain some degree of safety and security during these wobbly times. This safe space is a place you will call your true home. It is always with you no matter where you go. Meditate.

Namaste

Posted on

Feelings, Emotions, Life, Values, and Self-Empowerment

Living within the restriction of our sheltered comfort zone.

It would seem those of us who are frightened by the feelings of the energetic emotions of our fears, doubts, hurts, and the like, tend to remain hidden in the small restrained prison of their designer comfort zone shelters. They hide there for protection from the self-imposed stories repeatedly whisper in their minds.  The restraints of our comfort zones have a lot of control over our ability to use our minds openly and freely. We must constantly face and challenge the illusionary projected perceptions of our emotions and feelings of fear, doubt, hurt, and the biases of prejudice. When we feel and release these emotions with understanding, none of them are trapped, and the emotions trapped from the past can push out the restraining walls of the comfort zones and free themselves. This widens the scope of perceptual thinking, and therefore opens-up the parameters of the limited frightened mind. With this we refresh our personality so we can healthily grow and evolve beyond fears and the like.

I believe we must strive to meet our challenges in life in honor of ourselves and the potentials of our growing maturity. To do this we must consistently evolve through our lives. We must always strive to increase our level of maturity, through challenging the perceived limits of our illusionary fabricated stories and the feelings of our fears and the like. These fears personally engineer the restrictive retarding walls of our personalized sheltered comfort zones. It is only when we live defined by the worth of a value-based life, can we naturally face our challenging fears and the restrictive feelings of the emotions they bring. It is then we begin to value all our life’s experiences, and it is then we lovingly value the worth of who we are and who we are knowingly becoming. Therefore, we come to recognize we are empowered by life as its partner, not limited by life as its adversary. Yes, life does it lovingly for us, for our growth, and for maturity. Life’s intention, by no means, ever wants to stick us in the retarding walls of a restrictive comfort zone. Life intention is we grow to a healthy mature loving human being.

Posted on

I Am My Own Best Company

I so enjoy being with me!

Life is a single, individual, and seemingly lonesome journey for us all. This is because the journey is more so an inner journey experienced within us, than it is an outward external journey happening outside of us. We are constantly striving to find something external for us to compensate for what we believe is lacking within us. I believe you may have concluded that this desirous fix will never work, no matter how often you have tried it. Trying to fill an inner void with external means is fruitless. We must endeavor to find within ourselves the treasures we have hidden away from ourselves due to our life’s hurtful disempowering experiences. When we uncover these treasures, which are latent within us, we empower ourselves to live rich, rewarding, and healthy lives. If we cannot maintain a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves as individuals, we will always depend on others to give us what we are not giving ourselves. This degree of blind dependence on others will consistently put a strain on the relationship, and the weight of the strain will cause the relationship to eventually break fall apart (or to become co-dependent and unhealthy).When we take the time to get to know ourselves, and become compassionate with that self, and nurture that self, we reveal what has been hidden away from the self as an individual. We then honor our self, enabling the self to honor the self in all relationships. It is then we have raised our vibration through the self-healing of self-fulfillment. This is what is meant by honoring yourself. Taking care of yourself, and growing, nurturing, and evolving, yourself into maturity.

Posted on

Hearts or Bullets

Your mind is weaponized with the thoughts you choose.

Think about this. Each of our minds is like a weapon. In itself the mind is a neutral peaceful space, used to conjure up thoughts to then project into the world as an effect of our feelings and beliefs. Shot at rapped fire into a group of individuals, the world, or a shot at a single individual. The mind is not bad or good it is neutral until there is the conjuring of thoughts and then based on the feelings of the moment and their beliefs a choice is made, hearts or bullets.


Bullets come in many different calipers. There is the caliper of hate, prejudice, fear, lust, greed, contempt, slander, lies, and much, much, much, more. There are arsenals of these bullets, and I don’t care to harbor the specific thoughts of them anywhere in my mind. These are the bullets of separation and debasement.

Hearts on the other hand, are that which heals and promotes unity. It is challenging to consider these as projectiles for the weapon of the mind, but Cupid’s weapon, the bow with its arrows of love. Yes, love can be shot from the mind. Kindness, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, and much, much, much, much more are the kinds of powerful thoughts you can choose to keep loaded in your mind. It is a matter of choose based on which type of world you want to foster. This will determine what thoughts you will load in the weapon of your mind.

Be careful of the choose you make; you may shoot yourself with it. I’ve shot myself with love, and I have no regrets, it feels so good. Chose to honor yourself with love and a loving world will be your reward.

Posted on

It is this hurtful thing know as pain which is our rescuer, as it causes us to recoil away from the cause of the hurt of the pain.

From the painful weight of the ignorance of coal to the true brilliance of a diamond

Pain is our individual and personal teaching tool to help guide us through our illusions of truth. It is an built-in alarm which warns us of what is unsafe and possibly destructive to our body and or persona. It is a teaching tool which easily grabs our attention as it navigates us away from the cause of the pain itself. Away from allowing the cause of the pain to hopefully not reoccur, or to become destructive. Although, we don’t always heed the the message given from the pain, be thankful for what it is, a serious warning. It is this hurtful thing know as pain which is a rescuer, as it causes us to recoil away from the cause of the pain; distancing ourselves from it the cause. This is our first step towards safety; which is a gift of the pain. Then from a distance we can safely evaluate the cause of the pain. Gaining the knowledge of its wisdom hidden in the distancing caused through the cause. We must also be aware of the possible victim emotions attracted to the pain. This is brought up from blaming, which usually confuses us, spiraling us down into suffering. Blaming keeps us tied to the pain and from identifying our own responsibility connected to the painful situation. It is a good thing to remember, pain is necessary but suffering is always optional.

Pain teaches us through its direct signals, as it clearly states in its own electrifying language – “Danger, danger, recoil now, pull away”… “Do it immediately or suffer the consequences of possible irreversible damage”. Without this signal we receive from the riveting voice of pain, what would be the outcome of some of the misguided actions we perform. It is also pain which is the motivator. Which when we allowed it can spur us away from the suffering. From holding onto the cause of the pain. It is the abrasive and cautionary language of any experience of pain which can evolve us. Pain’s purpose is to teach us as it motivates us to pass beyond the cause of the initial cause of the pain. To do this we must accept the lesson hidden beneath the surface; hidden in the cause of the pain.

Pain’s intention is always to motivate us to safety. It motivate us to reevaluate our choice, so we may mature through the knowledge gained from the teaching released from the situation. The teaching is a conscious shift brought on through a deep understanding of what actually caused the pain. It is for us to decide. We must decide to grow or resist growth entering into blame. As our choices are to gain from the knowledge of what has caused the pain or to refuse the knowledge and suffer out of our ignorance of the cause of the pain. Such as holding onto the situation. The choice is always yours. Life is like a mother which brings us thing so we may grow. Sometimes when we refuse to hear the warning she brings us pain is sustained as suffering.

Each of our pains carries a critical message for the maturation of our life. It is left to you to learn from your pain.

  1. Once you have step away from the cause as much as possible you can with honest clarity identified the cause of the pain. Then you can identify the belief you carry which lead you into the painful event. Accept it for what it is, a misunderstanding of the truth. Identify how one or more of your beliefs may have directed you to the painful event of making this mistake. It is important to accept responsibility in order to empower yourself to facilitate the needed change.
  2. Forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself allows for flaring emotions to reside in degrees. You may have to repeat this step repeatedly reminding yourself you can learn from this and become a stronger and more aware person through the knowledge gained from the event.
  3. Uncover the beliefs which allowed you to improperly evaluate the situation which lead you into making the mistake. You may choose to write in your journal what the experience was like and what you gained from it. In other words, how was the pain a tool for your growth and maturation.
Posted on

The Happiness of the Self is Based on the Balance Between Parent and Child – Mind and Heart.

Synergy of Heart and Mind
Synergy of Heart and Mind

Our emotions can be like a petulant child when it isn’t in the loving care of a mature mind; the intellect. So, is the emotionally driven child running your life or the stoic mind of a parent.

Well, there is another choice. That is one of a mature loving and wholesome relations between the heart and mind. This is a synergistic relationship between the heart and mind which develops the higher mind of wisdom; the intellect. The intellect is honorable and lovingly developed from its understanding of absolute truth with-out prejudice . Absolute-True always allows for healthy mature decisions, which make for a healthier and happier life. If not in that moment the understanding of it will surface over time. Truth is the factor here which is known for being grounded in maturity and the truth of love itself. It’s not skewed in the selfishness of egoic beliefs, but in being just. This justness is an aspect of having total regard for all of life, which is the foundational aspect of self-respect.

Self-respect is key in our personal growth; our evolution of the self. It is essential for the synergy needed to merge the heart and mind in a harmonios unit. We have to learn to be honest with ourselves in order to reveal the truth about our self. Good or bad as it may be, at least we can understand the causes of our behavior. Self-respect allows us to nurture ourselves beyond the pain, hurt, embrassment, etc. of our flaws. We can then recognize these flaws are an misunderstanding of the facts of life. So, as we allow ourselves to honestly identify them we can change them through honest, not egoic, self-nuruting. The type of nurturing which builds strength of character.

Strength of character is the combination of a healthy and mature heart and mind working together synergistically . Be patient with yourself in appreciation for all you have to face in life. We don’t always have many of the answers, so we make mistakes. It is a mature mind and a loving heart which realizes mistakes we make can be the needed form of a great lesson for us to learn from. This is maturity forged in self-appreciation. The appreciation we can gain for ourselves through the acceptance of the moments where life has come to help us grow through its endless unfolding lessons. Which sometimes also have the pain we bring from resisting them .

More on this topic coming in the next post.

Posted on

Self-Respect is a Unique Power

I accept and appreciate you with great respect..

The Importance of Self-Respect part I

Do you respect yourself? It is so very easy to say you do, but do you actually respect yourself sincerely? Perhaps it’s that you’re only thinking honestly about it now. It’s most likely not many of us even rarely consider this important question of self-respect. And without truly understanding what it is to experience self-respect, it is often taken for granted. We tend to just go about our lives focus on what’s happening out there, outside of ourselves.

Were consistently questioning why things are happening in seeming disregard to our personal lives. Our thinking in this way is due to our dependence on respect coming from outside ourselves. Not the nurturing respect which is born from within us. We may not even consider our lack of tolerance for life is all about us forgetting about this inner experience of the power of self-respect. It seems like we spend a good portion of our time pursuing respect from others and even from life itself as we complain. Respect from others is not a need which is primary in life, not even needed secondarily. To tolerate life and its challenges it’s respect for the self which is primary and when we gain this power there’s no need to complain.

The truth of it is, the only place we can really experience the power within the conscious experience of respect is when we’re supporting ourselves consciously. That is when we’re respecting ourselves. Then and only then can we be more accepting of life and others, the way it is, and the way they are. It is then all of life reflect the value of respect we are mirroring from ourselves.

If we are looking exclusively to get the experience of respect from others, and we’re not supporting that outer level of respect from the space of self-respect; we are living in the shadow of falsehood. We then become dependent on those outside relationships with others for the core of the experience of our experience of respect. Gaining self-power wont happen this way. Attachment to them for respect will not create true respect. Self-respect is the prerequisite for all respect and is the foundation for all personal growth. Self-respect is a guide for evolving consciously through life. Why you ask? Self-respect, in particular, allows us not to fall into the need to play the role of a victim. This is due to the respect being a multifaceted power which carries with it a degree of self-protection that comes from a level of self-wisdom; a partner of self-respect. This wisdom, this level of understanding, is the essence of the experience of self-respect which provides self-care.

Without owning respect, which makes it self-respect, we have lost ourselves into the chaos of life without the foundation needed to discern the value of our experiences brough to us through life and others. Therefore, it can be said, to own self-respect is to find our own core power which has been lying dormant due to believing respect can only come from outside of yourself. This is a great illusion which causes much of or pain and sorrow.

Self-repect is an act of loving the self.
Posted on

The Energy of Forgiveness is the Nurturing Flow of Self-Love

Forgivenss is another way of knowing the power of love.

The energy of forgiveness is innate in all of us. It lies dormant in the creative flow of the consciousness of love. Therefore as you increase you ability to love you increase your ability to forgive naturally. The world is now becoming blind to the truth of love. This innate power come as a gift from those who are willing to love without restriction. Forgiveness enlivens love to heal.  All the love we each express is colored by the manner in which we are nurtured by our ability to love and care for ourselves. Loving brings the self into the conscious light of a more complete form of our higher self. From the smaller, constricted, and more shut-down and fearful-self.

Consciousness holds all our unlimited powerful potential of which forgiveness is one. Love is the consciousness which unfolds forgiveness to be gifted to the self and the world. As a potential of consciousness, the energy of forgiveness acts like real and honest magic as it unfolds a greater aspect of the forgiver. Evolving that individual sight beyond the limitated vision of the hurtful world and what they have falsely imagined to be their self as a victim. This magic is of the healing consciousness of loving the self; freeing the self. Of going beyond the limitations of the suffering of experiential pain and hurt. Forgiveness is one of these gifts. The gift of freedom from past sufferings bestowed through the capacity to love more than previously realized.