Pain is our individual and personal teaching tool to help guide us through our illusions of truth. It is an built-in alarm which warns us of what is unsafe and possibly destructive to our body and or persona. It is a teaching tool which easily grabs our attention as it navigates us away from the cause of the pain itself. Away from allowing the cause of the pain to hopefully not reoccur, or to become destructive. Although, we don’t always heed the the message given from the pain, be thankful for what it is, a serious warning. It is this hurtful thing know as pain which is a rescuer, as it causes us to recoil away from the cause of the pain; distancing ourselves from it the cause. This is our first step towards safety; which is a gift of the pain. Then from a distance we can safely evaluate the cause of the pain. Gaining the knowledge of its wisdom hidden in the distancing caused through the cause. We must also be aware of the possible victim emotions attracted to the pain. This is brought up from blaming, which usually confuses us, spiraling us down into suffering. Blaming keeps us tied to the pain and from identifying our own responsibility connected to the painful situation. It is a good thing to remember, pain is necessary but suffering is always optional.
Pain teaches us through its direct signals, as it clearly states in its own electrifying language – “Danger, danger, recoil now, pull away”… “Do it immediately or suffer the consequences of possible irreversible damage”. Without this signal we receive from the riveting voice of pain, what would be the outcome of some of the misguided actions we perform. It is also pain which is the motivator. Which when we allowed it can spur us away from the suffering. From holding onto the cause of the pain. It is the abrasive and cautionary language of any experience of pain which can evolve us. Pain’s purpose is to teach us as it motivates us to pass beyond the cause of the initial cause of the pain. To do this we must accept the lesson hidden beneath the surface; hidden in the cause of the pain.
Pain’s intention is always to motivate us to safety. It motivate us to reevaluate our choice, so we may mature through the knowledge gained from the teaching released from the situation. The teaching is a conscious shift brought on through a deep understanding of what actually caused the pain. It is for us to decide. We must decide to grow or resist growth entering into blame. As our choices are to gain from the knowledge of what has caused the pain or to refuse the knowledge and suffer out of our ignorance of the cause of the pain. Such as holding onto the situation. The choice is always yours. Life is like a mother which brings us thing so we may grow. Sometimes when we refuse to hear the warning she brings us pain is sustained as suffering.
Each of our pains carries a critical message for the maturation of our life. It is left to you to learn from your pain.
- Once you have step away from the cause as much as possible you can with honest clarity identified the cause of the pain. Then you can identify the belief you carry which lead you into the painful event. Accept it for what it is, a misunderstanding of the truth. Identify how one or more of your beliefs may have directed you to the painful event of making this mistake. It is important to accept responsibility in order to empower yourself to facilitate the needed change.
- Forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself allows for flaring emotions to reside in degrees. You may have to repeat this step repeatedly reminding yourself you can learn from this and become a stronger and more aware person through the knowledge gained from the event.
- Uncover the beliefs which allowed you to improperly evaluate the situation which lead you into making the mistake. You may choose to write in your journal what the experience was like and what you gained from it. In other words, how was the pain a tool for your growth and maturation.