As human being it would seem by our actions we are not so equipped to live happily and in harmony with each other. It not that we do not have the equipment, the senses of consciousness. It is truly more about not knowing how to use the equipment we have or how to upgrade the biases of our mentality and emotional states of mind.
Our emotions are a part of our human equipment. Like an embedded applications it runs automatically when needed along with the powerful tool called the mind and thoughts. It is important to understand, actually to absolutely know, we are not our emotions. They are a powerful tool of our human nature. We have or use emotions, that is we are not what we are emoting. Our emotions are describing to us our projected view of what we are experiencing or believe we are experiencing. They gauge the level of our experiences so we may then ponder their expressions as a valued experience. Pondering to consciously learning with nourishing understanding from the expressions of our emotional experiences. As we learn consciously, we may recognize the need to change and even upgrade our use of emotions. We may need to evolve our behaviors due to the newfound insights into our emotional beliefs and action and behaviors mandated by those belief.
So, as with any tool of life we may use the tools instead of having the tool using us and dictate terms over our behaviors. We need to be awake and conscious of our personal emoting behavioral patterns. So, they are not controlling how, when, why, and to what extent we are using emotions functionally, without biases of our past pains. Now like no other time, now is clearly the time to evolve consciously and develop a loving intellect. Now is the time for self-nurturing. Now is the time for us all to heal from our biases caused personalized wound and wounding, and evolve in peacefully honoring ourselves, others, and the entirety of the world.
We all live in our personalized individually creative box. These individual boxes, which we each create for our-selves, is our personalized fashioned fortress. The cost of maintaining this box as fortress cost our lives a lot. This cost is our living energy. It takes a lot of energy, a lot of life, to securely house the secrets of years of our creative gambit of stuff. We seem to be endlessly collecting plenty of it all the time. All the stuff we keep ourselves attached to keeps us weighed down and tethered to the defense of our box.
The box is where we store it all. Our number one diligence then is to protect our box at all cost. It is this unconscious commitment and devotion to the protection of our box which keeps us a prisoner inside of it. If you think sheltering in place is tough, pay attention to how you stay inside your box to protect your collection of the lifelong time of creative stuff. It is then the box that defines us leaving us to see ourselves as small and in need of the protection of the box. So, we erect all kinds of defensive devices to protect the box, which has now become our security blanket or adult pacifier. In all actuality, these protections keep us secluded inside the box and cuts us off from most all the needed means of evolving. It keeps us boxed-up and far away from the larger intuitive self, and from any evolved sense of ourselves. The self we aspire to be. Instead we are frightfully locked up in our personalize, custom fitted, seats only one box. We stay with the box when our life purpose is waiting for us to discover it where it waits on the outside of the box.
So, what is the “Box”?
The box is the of the persona, the personality with all its protective measures. Developed and formed to give an uniquely certain and special appearance on the outside of the box as its facade. While the inside of the box holds a gambit of emotional secrets and their perceived colorful stories. Mostly this box holds our secretive fears and shadows. Without these deep fears there would not be any reason for a box. Therefore there wouldn’t be anything to hide or anything to hide from. Most of all there wouldn’t be any reason to fear fear. Consequently, there would not be any reason to construct a box at all.
Our boxes are constructed from the rogue energies released from our attachments and emotional resistance created through our experiences in life. These reactive behaviors foster beliefs and it is these beliefs which make the choices for which type of box will be constructed to live life out of. These beliefs and their attitudes write the programming algorithm which determine how the world needs to view us, so it will relate to our box’s construct pleasurably. Fear most leads the construction of the box along with our idiosyncrasies, prejudices, predilections, non-evaluative judgements, and motivations and desires.
The box restrains us. It keeps us as a prefabricated desired character without any consideration for how it keeps us detached from our higher consciousness, the consciousness of soul. This form of restraint keeps us small and submissive to life, reactive to change, and change’s challenges. Learning to think outside the box gives us the ability to accept and understand life’s changes and to use them to regain our personal energy, promote personal growth, heal shadows, and evolve. Embracing change lessens the need for a box because nothing grows locked up inside a box. Things grow out from a box to flourish in the open air and in the brilliance of light. It doesn’t grow into the box.
We display ourselves as the colors of the sum total of our experiences.
We are the expressions of the beliefs from our choice and the choices from our beliefs. Each moment throughout the day we make choices based on or from a possibly unproven belief. Each of these beliefs are formed from our previous momentary choices. Choices from a drive of an internal thought driven emotion, a desire or a fear, real or prefabricated. At some point we must stop this cycle and ask ourselves “Do I truly know why I have made this choice?” Does this chose define me as I desire to be defined?” If not, why are you making this choice?
Do your choices define you as you aspire to be? If not, change your choice and change your life, and you’ll also change the world. When you honor yourself you honor the world. How do you honor yourself? Well I would say, it’s through each and every choice you make throughout your days.
Your mind is weaponized with the thoughts you choose.
Think about this. Each of our minds is like a weapon. In itself the mind is a neutral peaceful space, used to conjure up thoughts to then project into the world as an effect of our feelings and beliefs. Shot at rapped fire into a group of individuals, the world, or a shot at a single individual. The mind is not bad or good it is neutral until there is the conjuring of thoughts and then based on the feelings of the moment and their beliefs a choice is made, hearts or bullets.
Bullets come in many different calipers. There is the caliper of hate, prejudice, fear, lust, greed, contempt, slander, lies, and much, much, much, more. There are arsenals of these bullets, and I don’t care to harbor the specific thoughts of them anywhere in my mind. These are the bullets of separation and debasement.
Hearts on the other hand, are that which heals and promotes unity. It is challenging to consider these as projectiles for the weapon of the mind, but Cupid’s weapon, the bow with its arrows of love. Yes, love can be shot from the mind. Kindness, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, and much, much, much, much more are the kinds of powerful thoughts you can choose to keep loaded in your mind. It is a matter of choose based on which type of world you want to foster. This will determine what thoughts you will load in the weapon of your mind.
Be careful of the choose you make; you may shoot yourself with it. I’ve shot myself with love, and I have no regrets, it feels so good. Chose to honor yourself with love and a loving world will be your reward.
When we run from fear we’re trying to escape the thoughts of our own mind.
Are
you aware of your everyday relationship with fear? Fear is one of our many
different daily dance partners. Not that we may even recognize we’re doing the
fear dance to whatever situation we’re facing. Yet fear is a choice point which
stirs our life into a point of potential growth. Depending on whatever choice
we make of course determines if we grow or not.
What
does fear want from us?
Fear
is consciousness itself expressing the need for us to be alert instantaneously.
No lag time, to be alert immediately. It is this fear, our protective unconscious
expression of energy, which comes to be manifest in our mind, brain, and body.
It comes to shake us acutely wide awake. It like hearing, BANG WITH FLASHING
LIGHTS! WAKE-UP this is your BE ALERT call. For you are now entering into a
situation were your not prepared in that moment to face. It is this, a bright
blinking like light in the darkness of lack of understanding which is calling
for us to PAY-ATTENTION. It is this blinking light of fear warning us of what
is standing before us. It is this light, that which is called fear which
prevent us from being consumed, hurt, by a moment we are not prepared for. It
echoes out its concern to us. Announcing itself for our awareness. Fear is our
protective consciousness.
Fear needn’t tie us up and inhibit us from evolving through and past the fear event before us. Fear’s goal is to cause us to pause as it deflects us away from any potential harm or pain. So then, after the event we can access what we need to understand more deeply with resolve. This point of fear alert us to the point of growth facing us. Fear wishes to teach us, to grow us, to evolve us into a more knowledgeable understanding of life. Of course, we must consider the severity of the situation and the volume of the fear itself. Not all of the mental and physical outcome of a fear event can be process without professional support. I speak here of the fears we face often enough, as we dance with fear every day. So, it make sense we learn this dance called fear.
We live in a world littered with countless distractions. In
a single moment a person can be pulled consciously and subconsciously into the
grip of several distracting things in their surroundings. Sounds, smells,
images, and feeling of sensations are constantly flirting with us. Every day we
are challenged by new and old forms of distractions which demand our attention as
they enter into our personal spaces. It appears with all the attention we give
to our distractions there’s so little time left for us to nurture by the core
of the self. It is our core self which allows for the opportunities of long-lasting
peaceful tranquility. That is to experience the uncluttered loving core of
our-self, wherein lies all our strength of divinity. Love holds immense power
and when we hold and recognize such spiritual love for our self, empowerment
unfolds. This undisturbed time in self-love is needed for the nurturing care and
maintenance of our whole self. A time to create a healthier intimate relationship
with ourselves. To refresh ourselves in love, so we can increase and recognize
our untapped strength.
This undistracted time is the precious time we need to refocus
and guide our intentions back toward the forgotten strength of our inner self; spirit
itself. Honoring this undistracted loving time is made as an investment in the
self, for the love of the self, and its precious value must be kept. As it is
what provides for the intimacy needed to acquaint the self to the forgotten self.
This time is what will provide power for withdrawing from the torrent of distracting
and addictive simulations and awaken us to spirit.
Distractions volley to infiltrate and usurp space in our thinking.
Ultimately to steal our power and keep us divorce from spirit. It stirs up random
emotions altering our state of mind and state of consciousness. Like a virus it
attaches itself to our flow of thoughts and corrupts it nature. How much do we
truly understand how all this fury of distracting simulation is reshaping who
we are. Without making time, taking time, to spend quietly in our own company
how would we ever know? We easy lose touch with ourselves and buy into the
distraction. We lose touch with our own sense of self-empowerment. It’s as
though we trade our company with ourselves in for the pleasures of the external
simulations distracting us in life. We become the addicts of mindless
simulation constantly searching for more to fill the void of our forgotten self.
Spirit itself. Consumed by the doings of distractions. To easily become even more
easily distracted, and in turn forgetting about the value of the being which
lies at our inner most core. We forget the experiences of the love we are.
We must as often as possible step-out of this torrent of simulation,
and take time to be with our-selves, to break the addiction of the grasp of simulating
distraction. Preferably quiet time where you can find, listen to, and
experience the deeper aspects of the core of you. Giving yourself this time for
self-empowerment is essential. Without providing any time with our own truthful
self is depriving the ourselves with the greatest love we can possible receive;
except of course that of the love of God. Time is one of our most important and
priceless commodities. How we spend our time determines the quality of our investment
into our-self. No matter who or what we are spending our time with, that
time spent, is an investment we are spending on our-self. Why do
I say this you may ask? It is because it is our minds which uses that time spent,
that time invested in, to increase its ability to discern what we have decided
has value for our own evolution. Empowerment
comes from that which holds within itself universal and empirical values. Its
worth is seen in the valued of truth, and so discernment is made easy as it
filters out the alluring distractions of life. This is power. This power is
revealed in the personal and intimate time we spend on and invest in our-self. We
have only oneself to care for. How many things do we give value to and not ever
even consider taking that time to create even more value in our-self?
Great is the power found in the time we invest in ourselves.
The time used to step away from all the cluttering distractions vying to take
hold of a space in our mind. Personal time is needed for self-care to free the self
from the distraction’s demands for attention. We all need special time to
unburden our self. These time-consuming menacing distractions of life easily enshroud
us in a prison of our own thinking. It is only when we take the time for being
still and silent that we can abolish the illusionary cage of distracting thoughts. Our freedom happens only through our investment
in loving self-empowering thoughts.
The funny thing about all of this is we all possess the power we need, the peace we need, the love we need, waiting at our core like a hidden treasure. We have covered up our treasures which truly define us with the torrent of daily unnecessary distractions. We keep looking for what lies deep within us outside of us in the distractions of the world. It is only when we take the time, make the time, to give our-self the loving time we need, do we have a space to heal. Will we be able to uncover what we have lost, or shall I say what we have hidden away from our self. A meditationpractice is needed to bring us to the quiet and still intimate space of power wherein. This is the place where you can listen to your heart speak the truth of spirit. It is the self, spirit, which can never-ever be absent of the truth. It may take time and patience to learn to hear the sweet whispers of the spiritual heart, your intuition. But if you spend time, invest your time, it will reveal your spiritual heart to you. The experiences you will find in those moments are worth their weight in gold. Are you willing to invest in yourself so you can reveal the values laid hidden in the treasure of your spiritual hearts? I believe your worth giving that time to yourself.
Reclaiming the inner peace and letting-go of the outer distractions
Next week’s post is “The Journey Inward to Empowerment and Self
Discovery”.
We must all ask ourselves, “Am I living in integrity with my faith”. -that is- “Am I living in integrity with my ethical and moral understanding of truth and civility?” In turn am I living in respect of the Golden Rule? Are you? Save the planet and humanity. Take responsibility for yourself. Live according to the Golden Rule. Honoring yourself is to live a life of integrity with the “Golden Rule”; do unto others as you would have then do unto you.
Honoring yourself is living in integrity with the “Golden Rule”.
From the painful weight of the ignorance of coal to the true brilliance of a diamond
Pain is our individual and personal teaching tool to help guide us through our illusions of truth. It is an built-in alarm which warns us of what is unsafe and possibly destructive to our body and or persona. It is a teaching tool which easily grabs our attention as it navigates us away from the cause of the pain itself. Away from allowing the cause of the pain to hopefully not reoccur, or to become destructive. Although, we don’t always heed the the message given from the pain, be thankful for what it is, a serious warning. It is this hurtful thing know as pain which is a rescuer, as it causes us to recoil away from the cause of the pain; distancing ourselves from it the cause. This is our first step towards safety; which is a gift of the pain. Then from a distance we can safely evaluate the cause of the pain. Gaining the knowledge of its wisdom hidden in the distancing caused through the cause. We must also be aware of the possible victim emotions attracted to the pain. This is brought up from blaming, which usually confuses us, spiraling us down into suffering. Blaming keeps us tied to the pain and from identifying our own responsibility connected to the painful situation. It is a good thing to remember, pain is necessary but suffering is always optional.
Pain teaches us through its direct signals, as it clearly states in its own electrifying language – “Danger, danger, recoil now, pull away”… “Do it immediately or suffer the consequences of possible irreversible damage”. Without this signal we receive from the riveting voice of pain, what would be the outcome of some of the misguided actions we perform. It is also pain which is the motivator. Which when we allowed it can spur us away from the suffering. From holding onto the cause of the pain. It is the abrasive and cautionary language of any experience of pain which can evolve us. Pain’s purpose is to teach us as it motivates us to pass beyond the cause of the initial cause of the pain. To do this we must accept the lesson hidden beneath the surface; hidden in the cause of the pain.
Pain’s intention is always to motivate us to safety. It motivate us to reevaluate our choice, so we may mature through the knowledge gained from the teaching released from the situation. The teaching is a conscious shift brought on through a deep understanding of what actually caused the pain. It is for us to decide. We must decide to grow or resist growth entering into blame. As our choices are to gain from the knowledge of what has caused the pain or to refuse the knowledge and suffer out of our ignorance of the cause of the pain. Such as holding onto the situation. The choice is always yours. Life is like a mother which brings us thing so we may grow. Sometimes when we refuse to hear the warning she brings us pain is sustained as suffering.
Each of our pains carries a critical message for the maturation of our life. It is left to you to learn from your pain.
Once you have step away from the cause as much as possible you can with honest clarity identified the cause of the pain. Then you can identify the belief you carry which lead you into the painful event. Accept it for what it is, a misunderstanding of the truth. Identify how one or more of your beliefs may have directed you to the painful event of making this mistake. It is important to accept responsibility in order to empower yourself to facilitate the needed change.
Forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself allows for flaring emotions to reside in degrees. You may have to repeat this step repeatedly reminding yourself you can learn from this and become a stronger and more aware person through the knowledge gained from the event.
Uncover the beliefs which allowed you to improperly evaluate the situation which lead you into making the mistake. You may choose to write in your journal what the experience was like and what you gained from it. In other words, how was the pain a tool for your growth and maturation.
Our emotions can be like a petulant child when it isn’t in the loving care of a mature mind; the intellect. So, is the emotionally driven child running your life or the stoic mind of a parent.
Well, there is another choice. That is one of a mature loving and wholesome relations between the heart and mind. This is a synergistic relationship between the heart and mind which develops the higher mind of wisdom; the intellect. The intellect is honorable and lovingly developed from its understanding of absolute truth with-out prejudice . Absolute-True always allows for healthy mature decisions, which make for a healthier and happier life. If not in that moment the understanding of it will surface over time. Truth is the factor here which is known for being grounded in maturity and the truth of love itself. It’s not skewed in the selfishness of egoic beliefs, but in being just. This justness is an aspect of having total regard for all of life, which is the foundational aspect of self-respect.
Self-respect is key in our personal growth; our evolution of the self. It is essential for the synergy needed to merge the heart and mind in a harmonios unit. We have to learn to be honest with ourselves in order to reveal the truth about our self. Good or bad as it may be, at least we can understand the causes of our behavior. Self-respect allows us to nurture ourselves beyond the pain, hurt, embrassment, etc. of our flaws. We can then recognize these flaws are an misunderstanding of the facts of life. So, as we allow ourselves to honestly identify them we can change them through honest, not egoic, self-nuruting. The type of nurturing which builds strength of character.
Strength of character is the combination of a healthy and mature heart and mind working together synergistically . Be patient with yourself in appreciation for all you have to face in life. We don’t always have many of the answers, so we make mistakes. It is a mature mind and a loving heart which realizes mistakes we make can be the needed form of a great lesson for us to learn from. This is maturity forged in self-appreciation. The appreciation we can gain for ourselves through the acceptance of the moments where life has come to help us grow through its endless unfolding lessons. Which sometimes also have the pain we bring from resisting them .
Do you respect yourself? It is so very easy to say you do, but do you actually respect yourself sincerely? Perhaps it’s that you’re only thinking honestly about it now. It’s most likely not many of us even rarely consider this important question of self-respect. And without truly understanding what it is to experience self-respect, it is often taken for granted. We tend to just go about our lives focus on what’s happening out there, outside of ourselves.
Were consistently questioning why things are happening in seeming disregard to our personal lives. Our thinking in this way is due to our dependence on respect coming from outside ourselves. Not the nurturing respect which is born from within us. We may not even consider our lack of tolerance for life is all about us forgetting about this inner experience of the power of self-respect. It seems like we spend a good portion of our time pursuing respect from others and even from life itself as we complain. Respect from others is not a need which is primary in life, not even needed secondarily. To tolerate life and its challenges it’s respect for the self which is primary and when we gain this power there’s no need to complain.
The truth of it is, the only place we can really experience the power within the conscious experience of respect is when we’re supporting ourselves consciously. That is when we’re respecting ourselves. Then and only then can we be more accepting of life and others, the way it is, and the way they are. It is then all of life reflect the value of respect we are mirroring from ourselves.
If we are looking exclusively to get the experience of respect from others, and we’re not supporting that outer level of respect from the space of self-respect; we are living in the shadow of falsehood. We then become dependent on those outside relationships with others for the core of the experience of our experience of respect. Gaining self-power wont happen this way. Attachment to them for respect will not create true respect. Self-respect is the prerequisite for all respect and is the foundation for all personal growth. Self-respect is a guide for evolving consciously through life. Why you ask? Self-respect, in particular, allows us not to fall into the need to play the role of a victim. This is due to the respect being a multifaceted power which carries with it a degree of self-protection that comes from a level of self-wisdom; a partner of self-respect. This wisdom, this level of understanding, is the essence of the experience of self-respect which provides self-care.
Without owning respect, which makes it self-respect, we have lost ourselves into the chaos of life without the foundation needed to discern the value of our experiences brough to us through life and others. Therefore, it can be said, to own self-respect is to find our own core power which has been lying dormant due to believing respect can only come from outside of yourself. This is a great illusion which causes much of or pain and sorrow.
